June doesn’t yell. It taps you on the shoulder.
Which, honestly, still feels too aggressive for most parents in Brooklyn.
This is the season where structure slides. School ends. Routines blur. And somehow, in the middle of it, you’re supposed to parent like you’re running a bilingual Montessori spa.
We tell parents to slow down. Then we hand them a laminated chart with 43 developmental milestones by age two.
For June let’s tear that chart up.
You don’t need to teach your child Mandarin in the womb.
Unless, of course, you’re planning to deliver in Beijing.
The pressure is everywhere. It’s louder than a motor cycle gang driving by during nap time . So here’s your reminder. Your child needs your presence more than the extracurricular.
Winnicott coined the phrase “good enough parents.”
I’m reclaiming it for the tired. The trying. The still-showing-up.
You’re not a bad parent if your kid can’t say “shoes” in three languages.
You’re just broke.
Good enough parents do five things.
- They create safety.
- They hold space for feelings.
- They allow exploration.
- They offer a soft place to land.
- They find moments to enjoy their child.
- That’s it. That’s the job.
So as June rolls in, don’t lose yourself trying to get on top of everything. That’s like quieting that motor cycle gang. Take a breath and take the opportunity to go off schedule.
“Playing is itself a therapy.”- Donald Winnicott
(So is skipping the schedule and watching a toddler talk to a spoon.)
Miss Emmy
Reclaiming “good enough” one eye roll at a time.
